Why Foster to Adopt Parents Should NOT Fear the Sonya McCaul Case and Why Biological Parents Should

The mass hysteria started before and in the last 24 hours has gotten worse, including with Calvin King (author of the infamous “I Am Sonya” article that was published last year).

There actually was a comment stating something to the effect of foster parents running away from this.

They shouldn’t.   Here is why.

Let’s go to the beginning of the case – if you look at the Omaha World article, you will find that there was not an allegation of abuse or neglect.   NONE.   Yet, John McCaul still had his daughter taken into state custody – this was after he called the police and told them that they wouldn’t give his daughter back.  He sent someone after her as he was instructed and STILL the state took her into their custody.

(As a side note, right now I don’t want to argue the right or wrong of the baby-sitter taking Sonya out of state.   Whether or not you agree with his parenting choice it is HIS PARENTING CHOICE.   It was not neglect, it was not abandonment.  Naivete maybe but that is not something you should loose your child over.)

In April of 2006, Kim Hodgin called DCS on Joy Gunn, claiming an unsafe home.   Joy Gunn had been the emergency placement while they were sorting the custody arrangements out.   (DCS has since admitted they knew of the prevailing custody order in Nebraska but chose not to pursue it further.   This does need some investigating.)   In July Kim and David Hodgins decided to file to terminate the parental rights of both John and his ex wife.

The Hodgins alleged abandonment and claimed that THEY had custody of the child.  (This was a lie, they had placement but at this point DCS had custody.)   DCS had been preparing to send the child BACK to Nebraska with her grandmother Phyllis McCaul.

In October, Phyllis filed a motion to intervene, to take her granddaughter home with her.

Keep in mind with all of this, the charges on John were filed in April 2006 and the indictment wasn’t until later.   The Hodgins did NOT know what the sentence was.   They did not know that John McCaul was going to stay in jail.   He was not sentenced until January 2007 with the reduction in October.

The attempt at adoption was filed BEFORE the sentencing and the “adoption” was finalized AFTER the sentencing reduction – in 2008, they won the right to adopt Sonya.   This was immediately appealed and instead of waiting on the appeal, they pushed the adoption through.

The termination had been filed based on abandonment.   The judge ruled that Sonya had NOT BEEN ABANDONED but instead decided to terminate due to the lengthy prison sentence that had already been reduced.    The prison sentence reduction had nothing to do with winning the appeal.   The reason the appeal was won was a lack of due process.   The Constitution is NOT a technicality guys.  Head up.

In March 2007, the mother’s rights were terminated.   The key thing to realize on this date as well is that DCS OPPOSED the termination of the parental rights of both John and his ex wife.   They did not believe this was in Sonya’s best interests.  In fact, they were still pursuing reunification as the primary goal.

The adoption was not allowed to stand, in fact it was overturned and annulled in 2009.  Which means that the Hodgins had not been her adoptive parents ever according to the law.

They attempted several more times, most recently in the last year.   They have not succeeded any of these times.

So what do we learn here?

Note that DCS did NOT file the termination.   In fact, they opposed it.   Nevertheless, the Kim and David Hodgins pushed through anyway.    When you are pursuing a foster to adopt situation, there is a reason the heartbreaking checks and balances are in place it is for YOUR PROTECTION and for the protection of the child.

A majority of the foster parents that wish to adopt stay ethical and within the law.   The Hodgins did not.   They filed to terminate John McCaul’s parental rights over the objections of DCS.  They did everything possible to stop reunification for EIGHT YEARS.   THEN they made this young girl into a media side show, bringing up all sorts of people who want to kidnap her, etc…   They also broke their contract with DCS and yet believe they could have another shot.

Not.  Going.  To.  Happen.

Legitimate, ethical foster parents shouldn’t worry that this will happen to them but biological parents should.

Notice, no charge filed, no allegations of abuse or neglect yet it still took John McCaul this much time to get his daughter back.   Law enforcement would not help, instead accusing him of abandonment.   This is what parents should fear.

NOT an illegal adoption getting overturned.

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Congratulations Sonya McCaul!

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Today we celebrate.   We celebrate that Sonya McCaul is no longer a foster child, no longer in DCS custody, instead as soon as the order is finalized, she is in full custody of her father.    The person that she loves with all her heart.   The daddy that has fought for her since this nightmare began.   The father that has protected her privacy.

Someone asked earlier how I could defend this case with a “career criminal” ethically.

It’s easy for me.   First is the fact that the truth has rarely come out of the Hodgins camp – there is one blog in particular that seems to put out the nastiest unsupported rumors and yet supported by those who claim to be Christians.   This is inexcusable.    At the first amount of dishonesty people should’ve stepped back.   Case in point?  Timelines, restraining order, transition, etc…

The blog in particular?  It brings to mind so much of what was going on during the Veronica case where one man in particular that is employed in IT by Trio took great joy in  finding anyone with the name of Dusten Brown, even if the spelling wasn’t alike and attributing all wrongdoing to Veronica’s birth father.

Then there were the so called admissions gleefully published by Bonnie Cleaveland.   Why haven’t I addressed them?

Because they have no bearing.   The questions were written to trip John McCaul up during the defamation case and as he had not gone to a deposition due to a certain amount of miscommunication between attorneys.   The judge granted that those questions all be answered yes and put into evidence.   Contrary to what Dr. Cleaveland says, these were  NOT answered by John McCaul himself.   In addition, these were only to be used in the defamation case – incidentally which can be refiled at the very least against Trio Solutions and Jessica Munday.

These sorts of things and the encouragment of people to lie and stalk make me very disinclined to support them.   I should never have heard of Sonya’s case.   EVER.   Period.   She has a right to privacy.    A right that the Hodgins violated by putting her on THREE national television shows.  Incidentally also breaking the law as well as the contract that they signed.

What else broke the contract?   Filing to terminate John’s rights and to adopt Sonya.   Had this been a typical foster to adopt case with all of the i’s dotted and the t’s crossed this would not have happened.    BUT this wasn’t, this was two people attempting to circumvent the law.

Finally though is the scripture 1 Corinthians 6:9-11:  (Again, The Message, as I LOVE the language used)  9-11 Don’t you realize that this is not the way to live? Unjust people who don’t care about God will not be joining in his kingdom. Those who use and abuse each other, use and abuse sex, use and abuse the earth and everything in it, don’t qualify as citizens in God’s kingdom. A number of you know from experience what I’m talking about, for not so long ago you were on that list. Since then, you’ve been cleaned up and given a fresh start by Jesus, our Master, our Messiah, and by our God present in us, the Spirit.

John McCaul has cleaned up his life.   The last arrest was NOT a violent crime but rather one of what I would say more or less was carelessness.   You may not agree with his parenting choices but parenting choices are NOT a reason to loose parental rights over.   I have every respect that this man against odds that would have defeated many STILL GOT HIS DAUGHTER BACK.

Guess what?  Paul was a murderer.   Let’s be plain and simple there.   And you know what else?   God used him mightily.    He wrote the scriptures that you would use to condemn John McCaul.

Sonya loves her daddy.   Sonya wants to stay with her daddy.   He has been under constant scrutiny and still managed to rise above it and to protect her privacy, something the Hodgins can’t be bothered doing.    In the end, I can’t support people who again and again have been proven to lie.

In the end though, today is about Sonya McCaul!   Strong Sonya, Brave Sonya and today HAPPY SONYA!

Congratulations Girl, make new memories with your family!