Christianity, ICWA, Ethics and the Case of Alexandria P.

So for those who don’t know, the Save Lexi case is well and truly over.   The United States Supreme Court has declined to hear the case and therefore Lexi will remain in the home of her family with her sister.   This is very good news to both the Indian Child Welfare Act and to family preservation in general.

I am doubtful that true justice will be served here because true justice would be some sort of punishment for how long that the Page’s kept her from her true family – but I’d be fine if they would at least lose their foster care license and if Johnston Moore loses some major credibility with this case.

At the earliest mention of this case, which has been quite a bit of time ago, someone posted that Lexi’s father was a sex offender.   I did not allow this comment through and started to dig.   I found nothing.

When the Daily Mail outed the father’s name, both myself and many like me started to search through documents and registries to see if the father’s name was listed on any of them.

He wasn’t.   Not in Utah and not in California.

I was unsure of where this had even come from and it’s been sitting in the back of my mind as I’m poring through things.   It’s come up once in court paperwork – in the Supreme Court brief submitted by the Page’s it was  stated: “Jay E. had been in and out of prison, having been convicted of various firearms and drugs offenses, and of having sexual intercourse with a minor.”

I read this, knowing the names I do now and went back to the registries again.   Convicted would place someone on a sex offender registry.    (That goes even if it’s an 18 year old with a 15 year old girlfriend.   Still on the registry)

Guess what, except for this document and a WND article there is nothing to prove this.   And as WND has shown that they are not finding all the story (as per viewing their story versus the Court of Appeals Documents) then I am believing they got their entire story from the Page’s.    And with this sort of wild accusation that flies just as much as it was during the Sonya Case, I am wondering how much of this is still going back to Jessica Munday.

I am appalled that so many Christians went on this boat and this high horse without fact checking.   I know that Johnston Moore has a place in the Evangelical community but this is insane.    This case to me further has put a nail into HIS credibility.

If you look at the document that the Page’s sent to the US Supreme Court you’ll see a pretty dramatically different story than every other source has – claiming that the tribal placement was lined up after they’d had the child for awhile when in fact the Utah placement was set up before they got her and the little bit about her father being a sex offender.

The story about the placement being last minute was indeed mirroring what Lori Alvino McGill said at a  press conference implying that the tribe had been lax about finding a placement for the child.   When everything had been set up with appropriate planning from all accounts.

I know that many Christians want to go and be pro-adoption in the idea of caring for widows and orphans.    But this case is showing how far someone wants to push to make someone an orphan.   This child should’ve been with her family all the way back in 2013 – not being subjected three years later to an army of media protests.    This.  Should.  Not.  Have.  Happened.

The Page family should’ve cooperated.   They should have done what they were legally, morally and contractually obligated to do – reunite a child with her family.

Johnston Moore and those like him, despite their feelings toward ICWA should not have gotten involved in a situation fraught with so much dishonesty.   He should not have been spreading untruths about this case which so clearly damage the credibility of the case, of the movement and of Christianity.

So who am I slamming here?

  1.  Johnston Moore for getting involved in this case and doing administration job on the Facebook page for a story that was clearly becoming more and more easily disproven by the facts.   This means that either 1.  he was misled in which case he should own up to it and apologize and step away or 2.  He was part of the deception.   Either way, unacceptable behavior for someone at the head of a Christian movement.   Focus on the Family is seriously on an ethics watch list to anyone and everyone as long as you are in any capacity with the organization.
  2. Glenn Beck’s Network and WND – two news sources who could not figure out how to find a balanced story.   My high school journalism teacher would’ve reamed me over the coals for the stories that have come out.    It took me approximately 15 minutes of research to get those court records and find out that the Page’s were blowing hot air with their story.  In these days of nearly instant internet access there is no excuse for this.
  3. The Page family and their church – seriously, under what planet is lying acceptable let alone lying to this extreme extent.   What kind of witness are you bringing out when you not only try to make an orphan out of a child that is not one but also lying to everyone about the hows and the whys.      THEN instead of doing your job you call in cameras, you call in protesters.   You claim that you don’t know where the reporters came from when the call on the Facebook page was for everyone to show up at your house with an address!

    You could’ve sent Troy Dunn away.   You did not choose to do so.   You could’ve chosen to do a great many things to do right by the child you claimed to love and you didn’t.

Yes I am angry.   I am terribly angry.   I am angry that my faith has been used to justify what has occurred here.   I am angry that my faith is being used to justify taking children away from their fathers.   I am angry that the integrity that I have worked so hard to build up on behalf of my faith is crumbled by these kinds of shenanigans.   I’m angry that more and more native people look at Christians as the thieves of their children and judging by WND’s racist comment section, I cannot contradict them.

Just Stop.   All of you.  Stop.

 

 

“Common Misconceptions” vs Court Documents in the Lexi case

So I haven’t been about awhile, real life has DEFINITELY kicked in of late.   But the case for Lexi has come back from the court of appeals with a set of documents even more damning for the foster parents then the earlier court of appeals.

Newest Court of Appeals Document

For those that had not seen it – the newest case is right here – and it’s a doozy with much more information then the previous case, where several supporters are even aghast with how much had been left out.

I don’t know if Jessica Munday is at least directing this public relations campaign from behind the scenes but the similarities between the campaign on both this and Sonya’s case are pretty striking.   Combine this with the fact that both she and Johnston Moore (who is an admin on the Save Lexi page) are both involved in CAMI, it’s a pretty good bet.

Currently on the Save Our Lexi webpage there are a set of distinct “Common Misconceptions” and I thought I’d go through a few of them in comparison with the court documents – although according to them, the court documents lie about everything.

So the first thing they wanted to address is that the Page’s were not authorized to be an adoptive placement.

Adoptive Placement

So let’s start talking about how the Utah family was supposed to be the adoptive family from the get go.

Firstly there is the bit they quoted from both Court of Appeal documents:

“At some point after father’s reunification efforts failed, the P.s decided they wanted to adopt Alexandria. They discussed the issue with the Department social worker, who advised them that the tribe had selected the R.s as the planned adoptive placement.”

It goes farther then this though.   California has its OWN version of the Indian Child Welfare Act which strengthens the Federal standards.   So under California state law, still Lexi would have gone to her relatives.

All of the bits within this full code are here – including parts of the state law that the website has omitted – but it does walk through exactly how things work for an Indian child.

In addition, California law mirrors ICWA in the idea that family comes first – if there is no other options THEN an unrelated adoption can occur.  This was obviously not the case here.

Furthermore, a court order to stay the transfer does NOT mean that the child was adoptable – what it DOES mean is that the courts were going to take the time to see what they had to say.   They have heard it, and multiple times it has been denied.   So that argument is moot.

Lexi’s siblings are the next point.

Beyond all the back and forth about the subject of her siblings (Including Lori McGill’s “There is no evidence that her siblings are with her”) – they have put this tasty tidbit on their page.

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Stop right here.

The latest court of appeals documents contradict this in the largest possible way.

“The R.s have an ongoing relationship with Alexandria’s half-sister, Anna, who visits the R.s on holidays and for a week or two during the summer. Anna and Alexandria have the same paternal grandmother (who has since passed away) and step-grandfather, and the step-grandfather has designated the R.s to care for Anna if he should become unable to care for Anna.”  (Page 10)

“The R.s would usually include Alexandria’s older half-sister, Anna, in the visits. Alexandria first met Anna during a July 2013 visit, when Anna was about 12 years old. Anna lived with the R.s for a time, but by September 2015, she had moved down the street from the R.s. Alexandria’s younger half-sister Kayla was born in March 2015, and was being cared for by R.s. Alexandria responded to Kayla positively during  Alexandria’s first overnight visit with the R.s in April 2015. On a visit to Utah, Alexandria left Post-its around the house, including one on Kayla’s swing, because she did not want her sister to forget her.”  (Page 13-14)

“A social worker traveled with her, observed her transition to the R.s, and reported that Alexandria was excited about the visit and appeared to be comfortable in the R. home. On the return trip, Alexandria told the social worker she had a great time and would like to visit her sister and the R.s again. The P.s felt that Alexandria was too young for overnight visits, noting that they would not let their son of the same age stay with someone overnight. ” (Page 14)

“Alexandria had been able to form meaningful and affectionate collateral attachments to the R.s and her half-sisters, Anna and Kayla. Doi Fick noted that if Alexandria were to lose her strong sibling relationship with Anna, it would shake her sense of identity. Both Doi Fick and Alexandria’s therapist Wejbe felt the R.s would be supportive of a continued relationship between Alexandria and the P.s. Both also expressed concern that the P. family would be unable to support a continuing relationship between Alexandria and the R.s and her half-sisters, Anna and Kayla.” (Page 29)

That statement is a large lie in this case – Anna and Kayla are close to Lexi and the concern with the expert that the Page’s agreed upon is that the Page’s were NOT going to support a continued relationship with the sisters.   Based on other things brought up in the Court of Appeals document I think this is a valid point.

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So let’s start with the court document from the latest court of appeals.

“The court ordered Alexandria to be placed with the R.s and imposed a seven-day stay, after which Alexandria would be moved without a transition plan.

The P.s filed a notice of appeal, and also sought another writ of supersedeas to stay Alexandria’s transfer. We denied the writ petition on March 18, 2016.”

Based on the way that they kept calling protesters to the house, I somehow doubt that there would have been any way that a private transaction would have taken place.

Calling Troy Dunn?   NOT protecting Lexi.   Calling the media?   Calling protesters?   Not protecting her.

So get off that high horse now.   I would say that they POSSIBLY didn’t realize that DCFS would do it but I also don’t think that DCFS had many options.

I’ll go into the other issues later but I’d also like to address the concept that Summer is native and therefore would be suited to teaching Lexi about her culture.

This is all from the court of appeals documents:

“The P.s have described efforts they made to incorporate Native American culture into their lives. Summer P. has Southern Tuscarora heritage, but the tribe is not enrolling new members and is not a federally recognized tribe. They have painted one wall of their kitchen “Navajo Blue,” and are members of the Autry Museum, participating in Native American arts and crafts activities. They attend an annual pow-wow, and shortly before the September 2015 good cause hearing, Summer and Alexandria attending a sage burning ceremony. However, Summer declined to participate in a part of the activity, and did not encourage Alexandria to participate.”

In addition:

“Those other factors include Alexandria’s relationship with her extended family and half-siblings; the capacity of her extended family to maintain and develop her sense of self-identity, including her cultural identity and connection to the Choctaw tribal culture; and the P.s’ relative reluctance or resistance to foster Alexandria’s relationship with her extended family or encourage exploration of and exposure to her Choctaw cultural identity.”

And:

“After remand, the case was assigned to Judge Trendacosta, who ordered individual therapy for Alexandria in December 2014.8 Alexandria seemed happier and less anxious in individual sessions and was much more open about discussing family. Wejbe felt that Summer P. was reluctant to implement some of the therapy tools she suggested for Alexandria in the home, and the P. family did not attend many of the cultural activities offered through United American Indian Involvement. During one session, Wejbe made a dreamcatcher with Alexandria. Summer P. testified the dreamcatcher had ended up in the trash.”

The court papers show a child who loved her extended family and was willing to go with them and also showed a foster family unwilling to literally foster this bond.

I’ll go more into it later, but this post is long enough.

 

The Case of Baby A (AKA Save Lexi)

l am sorry I haven’t been around for a bit, stories had calmed down in the news, the Hodgins gave up their fight for Sonya and I wanted to make sure that she had the peace she deserves.   As I have heard nothing about her, I’m going to assume that she is living the life of a typical child with her family outside the limelight.

Congratulations Sonya!

Then the wagons started to circle around another case and as the names (Lori Alvino McGill being one of them and Johnston Moore being another) seemed familiar I went to look for it.

THEN as something else seemed familiar, I looked back a few years.

Choctaw Father Thwarted by Foster Couple

This was the story that had come up.  I remembered this story and reread the facts and then went to the Court of Appeals documentation right here.   Bear in mind that the story referenced above was from 2014 so that has been going on for at LEAST the two years that the public relations people are talking about.

The claim is that she was placed in the home and now she’s going to family she doesn’t know and is being pulled from the only home she has ever known.  In fact, it is so cruel that they couldn’t tell her she was leaving.   Or their other children that she was leaving.   (I have a VERY difficult time believing this and I’ll show you why)

First myth to bust is that the Choctaw nation just now stepped up to address issues with the child.   The Choctaw knew of this case from the get go.   Here is what was stated in the COA document:

” The tribe consented to the girl’s placement with a non-Indian foster family to facilitate efforts to reunify the girl with her father.”

and

“After reunification efforts failed, the father, the tribe, and the Department of Children and Family Services (Department) recommended that the girl be placed in Utah with a non-Indian couple who are extended family of the father.”

This was within a year.   The Pages were at no time pre adoptive parents nor was adoption in the cards for them.   To further prove this, I give you the following statement from the COA document.   “By the time Alexandria was placed with the P.s in December 2011, her extended family in Utah, the R.s, were aware of dependency proceeding and had spoken to representatives of the tribe about their interest in adopting Alexandria. The tribe agreed to initial foster placement with the P.s because it was close to father at a time when he was working on reunification. If reunification services were terminated, the tribe recommended placement with the R.s in Utah.”

Does this sound like a family that just showed up out of nowhere?   Does this sound like the situation should have been a shock to them?   The system was working as it was supposed to do.    When reunification failed (for a multitude of reasons) then the child was to be placed with a tribal approved extended family member in Utah who were more then willing to take on the child.

In addition as also stated in the Court documents:  “The Department consistently reminded the P.s that Alexandria is an Indian child subject to the ICWA placement preferences. At some point after father’s reunification efforts failed, the P.s decided they wanted to adopt Alexandria. They discussed the issue with the Department social worker, who advised them that the tribe had selected the R.s as the planned adoptive placement.”

Now lest you say “but they were strangers to her,” this is also stated in the court documents, “The R.s expressed their interest in adopting Alexandria as early as October 2011. They were initially told that to avoid confusing Alexandria, they should not contact her while father attempted to reunify. If reunification efforts failed, they were the tribe’s first choice for adoption. The family has approval for Alexandria to be placed with them under the Interstate Compact on the Placement of Children (ICPC). The R.s first visited Alexandria shortly after the court terminated father’s reunification services. Since then, they video chat with Alexandria about twice a week and have had multiple in-person visits in Los Angeles. The P.s refer to the R.s as family from Utah. At one point, when Alexandria asked if she was going to Utah, the P.s responded that they did not know for sure, but it was possible.” – so no, her family has not been a stranger to her and there have been visits even through all of the upheaval that the Page’s have put her through.   Granted, at the time what was also testified was:  “Russell and Summer P. testified that before and following a recent visit by the R.s, most likely in June 2013, Alexandria was upset and said she did not want to visit with the R.s and did not like it when they came to visit. Russell P. acknowledged that the change in Alexandria’s feelings coincided with the birth of a new baby in the P. family and a transition to a new therapist for Alexandria.”   (All of this took place when she was three and she has had visits and Skype calls ever since.)

Does this sound like a situation where the foster parents did not know what was going to happen or how the system was supposed to work?

The transition was supposed to take place in April 2013 and was agreed upon by ALL parties as stated in the COA document, “As ordered by the court on April 12, 2013, the Department arranged a conference call to discuss a transition plan in anticipation of a possible court order directing placement with the R.s. The call lasted 90 minutes and included the P.s in Los Angeles; the R.s from Utah; Ruth Polcino, Alexandria’s therapist at United American Indian Involvement; Polcino’s supervisor, Jennifer Lingenfelter; Alexandria’s attorney, Kerri Anderson; Department social worker Roberta Javier, as well as two other Department employees. The participants agreed on a transition plan that involved a relatively short transition, with both families meeting for breakfast or at a park, explaining to Alexandria that she is going to with the R.s, who are family who love Alexandria very much and will take good care of her. The P.s would reassure Alexandria that they love her and will always be a part of her family.”    This is why I don’t believe that the courts told them to hide the truth from this child.   Because these plans were put in place all the way back in 2013.

From there, the foster parents have kept this in court up until now.   And now they are calling out that this is the “Only home she has ever known” and implying to the media that she is going to perfect strangers that will traumatize her forever.

From there, the comments have been fast and fierce and like in the Veronica case some of the most racist are coming out of the woodwork.

What is more disturbing was the handover yesterday.   Troy Dunn and MULTIPLES of television cameras and protesters all around the family.   Johnston Moore (who I referred to in previous entries – An Open Letter to Focus On the Family and iCareAboutOrphans Regarding Orphan Care and Multiple Organizations: One Purpose as two of them is the Save Lexi moderator and has further pulled me away from any support of Focus on the Family until they cut all ties with him.   He put out the home address on Facebook and encourage protesters to come to the home of this foster child.

Troy Dunn – referred to on a previous occasion – And Now Troy Dunn? – has also inserted himself into several other cases.   He was told to stop filming and that it was illegal and yet he continues to do it.

THEN on a hunch I did a search.   There is a website in process – yesterday I didn’t get screenshots but here it is today now that they have a horrific handover picture for the banner (similar to the Save Veronica Rose site)

Here is the start of it.

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Like I said, they did at least get a good shot here.   And they didn’t put her face up but that is still a foster child who is supposed to be protected UNDER THE LAW.   Her privacy is supposed to be sacred.

A little whois search on godaddy revealed some answers but brought more questions.

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I whited out the phone numbers but I didn’t the address because here is the super strange thing about that address.   (and the registration date on it was Sunday March 20, 2016)   This address goes not to an office building but to a virtual office building.

Executive Suites in Oklahoma City – also this is where Kendall Sykes has an office on the same block.   Nothing about this organization at all.

Who is funding this?   Can someone bring that up because I’m getting a strong sense of deja vu.   Also no sign of whoever this Heather Parker is.   It’s odd.

Whether or not Jessica Munday is involved is waiting to be seen but with all the other players including Lisa Morris (You Will Know Them By Their Fruits: Why I Don’t Believe the CAICW is a Christian Organization) as well as several others, I am not surprised if she helped to orchestrate some of this but no proof.

And then, the person who is speaking for the child’s best interest according to herself?   Lori Alvino McGill – Lori Alvino McGill – A “Rising Star” Falling Rapidly – the woman who herself drunk posted a link accusing Dusten Brown of using several names and calling both Veronica and her older sister “illegitimate spawn”.

At this point, thankfully this child is on her way back to Utah with her family.    Unfortunately though, the trauma she experienced with the way that the foster parents and others chose to handle this transition is problematic.   Whether or not the foster parents are being used or decided to go ahead and choose to ally themselves with the forces that they did, it is not something I feel good about.

Save Lexi?   Save our Lexi?   After the display yesterday and seeing how that transition was handled I’m not sure that she needs to be saved from her family.   Because that video was horrendous.    If these foster parents still keep their resource license when this is over I really really want to know why.

The Goldwater Institute, Protecting Native Children and Lies the PR Firm Told Us Part 1

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In my last blog post (Which I’m afraid was a bit of time ago, my apologies, I have had other things come up in life), I spoke of the new organization CAMI, Citizens Against the Misuse of ICWA.   This is headed up by the American Academy of Adoption Attorneys, an organization that looks to loose a source of income if the BIA regulations go through.

The whole thing looked fishy, especially as Johnston Moore was getting involved in ANOTHER Anti-ICWA group – but further research ALSO put him on the CAICW board.   My respect for Focus on the Family and iHeartOrphans has hit a new low.  Many natives consider Lisa Morris and her ilk to be a hate group.  I want to believe that Johnston Moore has the best interests of foster children at heart, especially as once the Sonya facts came out he has never mentioned it again, but this is troubling, especially due to his previous claim that Home Forever had no official position on ICWA.

There have been several releases coming out of late one is Turtle Talk and the other being from NICWA both speaking of a Goldwater Institute Federal lawsuit being filed claiming that the Indian Child Welfare Act is discriminatory against Native Americans.

Ironically, the person in question that is announcing this is William B. Allen of both CAICW and CPICF.   He’s referred to on both the CPICF AND CAICW websites as a “Civil Rights Leader.”    William B. Allen was actually FORCED off of the Civil Rights Committee by George Bush Sr. due to his improper involvement with an Apache child.   I will be going through this case in depth later.   Suffice to say that between this and his speech entitled “Blacks? Animals? Homosexuals? What is a Minority?” at a California conference he was not someone that Bush wanted kept on HIS Civil Rights Committee.

Today though, the Institute revealed a slick new website with heart wrenching stories of children harmed by the Indian Child Welfare Act.    Two of the cases were from the Spirit Lake reservation, one that is problematic and known to be so.   Several of these cases are from families upset that they couldn’t adopt.   The Lupos for example as involved in the Elle case where the child was given to her Aunt and Uncle under ICWA once more spoke out.

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Let’s be honest, Washington has a very strict Families First law.   When Elle’s Aunt and Uncle stepped up, she would be returned.   Also the Lupos couldn’t handle working on a decent transition period to her family.   They asked DCS to take her away because they couldn’t do what was in the child’s best interest.

THEN there is this gem.
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First off “Brown was a registered member of the Cherokee tribe, but beyond that had no significant involvement with the tribe, according to court records.”

If this is the case then why do the South Carolina Supreme Court records state this:

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That shows pretty clearly that Dusten Brown WAS involved in Cherokee Culture.

And another gem:  “In January 2010, a few days before Brown deployed to Iraq, he signed the paperwork consenting to Veronica’s adoption.”

Again in the same ruling:

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Finally this:  “Six months later, Brown agreed to relinquish his parental rights rather than pay child support.”

This was of course due to a text message, but keep in mind that the text message was DISALLOWED at the South Carolina Supreme Court because there was LITERALLY no context for it – just one simple message and that is it.

I have yet to find a connection to Mrs., Jessica Munday in this or to Brad Caricofe, but mark my words it is there, the lies and styling are too much alike to be mere coincidence.   The Goldwater Institute is LYING to everyone and they need to be called out on it.

I will go through the rest of the page step by step in future posts, but this is my best start.

Multiple Organizations: One Purpose

So a new organization has come on the radar of the adoption reform movement.   The Coalition Against the Misuse of ICWA otherwise known as CAMI.   First they have a Facebook page and now a webpage.

Their webpage is particularly telling as it finally gives us a list of the founding members.

ICWA Members

Read line number four.   Home Forever, that is right.   Johnston Moore who only recently commented on this blog:

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So in October Home Forever had no official stance and now it does?    Why the sudden change of heart?

It is very telling that neither this nor his cofounding of the Coalition for the Protection of Indian Children and Families (CPICF) is mentioned on the Facebook page.   In addition his work with this “CAMI” isn’t mentioned either.

Also behind the scenes on this if you view the source on the CAMI webpage is this gem.

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Jessica Munday?   This gets better and better.

Those in the know remember Mrs. Munday from both her tireless work on the Veronica case and her tireless lies on the Sonya case.   In addition, she co founded the aforementioned CPICF.

Her twitter has also ramped up again with retweeting key players from both cases.

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First off, Bonnie Cleaveland complaining about being blocked by NICWA is PRICELESS.   Why?   Because a lot of people banned from posting on the CAICW page were mysteriously blocked without posting a single thing on the new Facebook page!   This makes me think Lisa Morris is in this woodpile SOMEWHERE but we haven’t proven it yet.

So here is the thing – it’s suspicious as it is with the crossover between CAICW and CPICF – why would Lisa Morris need to be in TWO organizations for the same thing, in fact to found two organizations.   Now, Johnston Moore is also doing the same thing – two organizations that he helped to found.   And why is Jessica Munday involved?  Who is paying her?

With the exception of Home Forever, each of the other organizations is made of people who profit from adoption.   Let that sink in for a moment, they profit from the breakup of families and the formation of new ones.   Many of the attorneys in these organizations are ones that know how to manipulate the law in order to get a product to sell.   Let’s be honest – private adoption is a money sink – price listings for babies at agencies and medicare fraud.  Native children are an easy sell, light enough to not be too different but different enough to be exotic.

I will argue that ICWA isn’t harming kids it is when ICWA isn’t followed that it IS harming kids.   Its when attorneys try to circumvent the law that it hurts kids.

Kids have a right to be with their families period.   Multiracial kids need access to all of their culture.   Both sides and all of it.

So follow the money and find where it leads.

Spin it Again Part 2

So in the days since the final order was signed, relieving John and Sonya of DCS control, there was a freedom to release certain documents.

The first set of documents were these:

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These debunked the whole theory that Sonya’s grandmother was unapproved to take her and that DCS had any plans to allow her to be adopted.

So reunification was the goal.   In fact, although in the letter for Sonya, it was said.

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The DCS paperwork has a totally different story.   Namely that they were not even aware that the Hodgins had filed to adopt Sonya until several months later.

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In fact, a May 2014 post on Bring Sonya Home claims this:

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Provide permanency or deny it?   Restraining orders, backdoor filings against DCS, wanting to force her back into foster care.   How is this providing her permanency?   Meanwhile although all of this evidence is speaking for itself as to who was holding up permanency for this child, so many still will not believe this.   They claim that documents are being “Cherry picked” with no actual documents to back this up.

One of these posted only yesterday on Bring Sonya Home.

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Ignoring the documents that perfectly explained WHY this had occurred, in fact explaining why ASFA doesn’t apply to this case.

More supporter commentary – in fact, it’s very much a push on the subject of justification of wrongdoing by the nanny as opposed to condemning her actions.

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Brenda Harms in particular will have her own series devoted to her soon.   She puts out blatant lies and posts the absolutely nastiest stuff on twitter.  All while she is SUPPOSED to be looking after children at a daycare in Iowa.

And yesterday came the notice that appeal has been filed.

What is there to appeal?

Multiple courts have ruled that John McCaul did NOT abandon Sonya.
Multiple courts have ruled (as late as last year) that the Hodgins do not have standing to terminate John’s rights or adopt Sonya.
DCS is officially off the case so John has control now.

John should not have to fight these people for his daughter.   Sonya should not have to worry about leaving her family because these people don’t want to respect her wishes.

That is the bottom line.

Why Foster to Adopt Parents Should NOT Fear the Sonya McCaul Case and Why Biological Parents Should

The mass hysteria started before and in the last 24 hours has gotten worse, including with Calvin King (author of the infamous “I Am Sonya” article that was published last year).

There actually was a comment stating something to the effect of foster parents running away from this.

They shouldn’t.   Here is why.

Let’s go to the beginning of the case – if you look at the Omaha World article, you will find that there was not an allegation of abuse or neglect.   NONE.   Yet, John McCaul still had his daughter taken into state custody – this was after he called the police and told them that they wouldn’t give his daughter back.  He sent someone after her as he was instructed and STILL the state took her into their custody.

(As a side note, right now I don’t want to argue the right or wrong of the baby-sitter taking Sonya out of state.   Whether or not you agree with his parenting choice it is HIS PARENTING CHOICE.   It was not neglect, it was not abandonment.  Naivete maybe but that is not something you should loose your child over.)

In April of 2006, Kim Hodgin called DCS on Joy Gunn, claiming an unsafe home.   Joy Gunn had been the emergency placement while they were sorting the custody arrangements out.   (DCS has since admitted they knew of the prevailing custody order in Nebraska but chose not to pursue it further.   This does need some investigating.)   In July Kim and David Hodgins decided to file to terminate the parental rights of both John and his ex wife.

The Hodgins alleged abandonment and claimed that THEY had custody of the child.  (This was a lie, they had placement but at this point DCS had custody.)   DCS had been preparing to send the child BACK to Nebraska with her grandmother Phyllis McCaul.

In October, Phyllis filed a motion to intervene, to take her granddaughter home with her.

Keep in mind with all of this, the charges on John were filed in April 2006 and the indictment wasn’t until later.   The Hodgins did NOT know what the sentence was.   They did not know that John McCaul was going to stay in jail.   He was not sentenced until January 2007 with the reduction in October.

The attempt at adoption was filed BEFORE the sentencing and the “adoption” was finalized AFTER the sentencing reduction – in 2008, they won the right to adopt Sonya.   This was immediately appealed and instead of waiting on the appeal, they pushed the adoption through.

The termination had been filed based on abandonment.   The judge ruled that Sonya had NOT BEEN ABANDONED but instead decided to terminate due to the lengthy prison sentence that had already been reduced.    The prison sentence reduction had nothing to do with winning the appeal.   The reason the appeal was won was a lack of due process.   The Constitution is NOT a technicality guys.  Head up.

In March 2007, the mother’s rights were terminated.   The key thing to realize on this date as well is that DCS OPPOSED the termination of the parental rights of both John and his ex wife.   They did not believe this was in Sonya’s best interests.  In fact, they were still pursuing reunification as the primary goal.

The adoption was not allowed to stand, in fact it was overturned and annulled in 2009.  Which means that the Hodgins had not been her adoptive parents ever according to the law.

They attempted several more times, most recently in the last year.   They have not succeeded any of these times.

So what do we learn here?

Note that DCS did NOT file the termination.   In fact, they opposed it.   Nevertheless, the Kim and David Hodgins pushed through anyway.    When you are pursuing a foster to adopt situation, there is a reason the heartbreaking checks and balances are in place it is for YOUR PROTECTION and for the protection of the child.

A majority of the foster parents that wish to adopt stay ethical and within the law.   The Hodgins did not.   They filed to terminate John McCaul’s parental rights over the objections of DCS.  They did everything possible to stop reunification for EIGHT YEARS.   THEN they made this young girl into a media side show, bringing up all sorts of people who want to kidnap her, etc…   They also broke their contract with DCS and yet believe they could have another shot.

Not.  Going.  To.  Happen.

Legitimate, ethical foster parents shouldn’t worry that this will happen to them but biological parents should.

Notice, no charge filed, no allegations of abuse or neglect yet it still took John McCaul this much time to get his daughter back.   Law enforcement would not help, instead accusing him of abandonment.   This is what parents should fear.

NOT an illegal adoption getting overturned.

Congratulations Sonya McCaul!

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Today we celebrate.   We celebrate that Sonya McCaul is no longer a foster child, no longer in DCS custody, instead as soon as the order is finalized, she is in full custody of her father.    The person that she loves with all her heart.   The daddy that has fought for her since this nightmare began.   The father that has protected her privacy.

Someone asked earlier how I could defend this case with a “career criminal” ethically.

It’s easy for me.   First is the fact that the truth has rarely come out of the Hodgins camp – there is one blog in particular that seems to put out the nastiest unsupported rumors and yet supported by those who claim to be Christians.   This is inexcusable.    At the first amount of dishonesty people should’ve stepped back.   Case in point?  Timelines, restraining order, transition, etc…

The blog in particular?  It brings to mind so much of what was going on during the Veronica case where one man in particular that is employed in IT by Trio took great joy in  finding anyone with the name of Dusten Brown, even if the spelling wasn’t alike and attributing all wrongdoing to Veronica’s birth father.

Then there were the so called admissions gleefully published by Bonnie Cleaveland.   Why haven’t I addressed them?

Because they have no bearing.   The questions were written to trip John McCaul up during the defamation case and as he had not gone to a deposition due to a certain amount of miscommunication between attorneys.   The judge granted that those questions all be answered yes and put into evidence.   Contrary to what Dr. Cleaveland says, these were  NOT answered by John McCaul himself.   In addition, these were only to be used in the defamation case – incidentally which can be refiled at the very least against Trio Solutions and Jessica Munday.

These sorts of things and the encouragment of people to lie and stalk make me very disinclined to support them.   I should never have heard of Sonya’s case.   EVER.   Period.   She has a right to privacy.    A right that the Hodgins violated by putting her on THREE national television shows.  Incidentally also breaking the law as well as the contract that they signed.

What else broke the contract?   Filing to terminate John’s rights and to adopt Sonya.   Had this been a typical foster to adopt case with all of the i’s dotted and the t’s crossed this would not have happened.    BUT this wasn’t, this was two people attempting to circumvent the law.

Finally though is the scripture 1 Corinthians 6:9-11:  (Again, The Message, as I LOVE the language used)  9-11 Don’t you realize that this is not the way to live? Unjust people who don’t care about God will not be joining in his kingdom. Those who use and abuse each other, use and abuse sex, use and abuse the earth and everything in it, don’t qualify as citizens in God’s kingdom. A number of you know from experience what I’m talking about, for not so long ago you were on that list. Since then, you’ve been cleaned up and given a fresh start by Jesus, our Master, our Messiah, and by our God present in us, the Spirit.

John McCaul has cleaned up his life.   The last arrest was NOT a violent crime but rather one of what I would say more or less was carelessness.   You may not agree with his parenting choices but parenting choices are NOT a reason to loose parental rights over.   I have every respect that this man against odds that would have defeated many STILL GOT HIS DAUGHTER BACK.

Guess what?  Paul was a murderer.   Let’s be plain and simple there.   And you know what else?   God used him mightily.    He wrote the scriptures that you would use to condemn John McCaul.

Sonya loves her daddy.   Sonya wants to stay with her daddy.   He has been under constant scrutiny and still managed to rise above it and to protect her privacy, something the Hodgins can’t be bothered doing.    In the end, I can’t support people who again and again have been proven to lie.

In the end though, today is about Sonya McCaul!   Strong Sonya, Brave Sonya and today HAPPY SONYA!

Congratulations Girl, make new memories with your family!

A Holiday Wish

Imagine if you will, being a child with a seemingly normal childhood in a small town.   You are homeschooled, you live at home, have a generally carefree life.

Then at the age of 9, you find out that you are adopted.   That after all this time of your parents telling you that you were born to them, you were adopted.    Then you go to school, sometime after your world is turned upside down, but they assure you that they are your family, despite being adopted.

Then sometime later you find out that you weren’t adopted at all, in fact, the adoption was overturned before your parents told you that you were adopted.   You find out that in fact you had a birth family that was fighting to get you back and had been fighting to get you back for most of your life.     You are returned to them and slowly find out more about your past, that your grandmothers wanted you, that you had cousins, brothers, sisters, a mother and a father, all of whom wanted you.   That you were and are loved beyond measure.

You find that you missed knowing one grandmother during this time, she had passed on from cancer.   You had missed knowing and learning from her because someone had been fighting your family in order to keep you.

Your “other parents” in the other state?  You missed them but you loved the new life with people who were just like you.   But they had told you what to say when you called them the night after you went to live with your father.   What you didn’t know is that they recorded what you said.   They also kept all of your belongings in the house in another state.

Five months later, as you are in counseling as you are adjusting well, you find out from a teacher that they played this phone call on national television.   Your voice is all over CNN, then the Today Show, then The View.  Your teacher asked about it and your friends overheard.    You were embarrassed horribly by what was said and what was done, so you inform your lawyer that you didn’t want to see them again, ever.    You told her you wanted this to stop and you wanted your things.

Still, they didn’t listen to you.   Your “other parents” by this point felt that they were going to “save you” putting up a national campaign, using a PR firm to say horrible things about your parents, calling on stars and going on national television again.

Every holiday has been marred by some sort of media from your so called “other parents” and now you don’t want to see them again and while you are embracing your family and love each and every one of them, they continue to fight your father, continue to put your pictures on the paper and try to put you on television once more.

What would you do?   Would you still want to see the “other parents?”   I ask you this, I want you to see it from that perspective.

Because this is a real scenario.   This is a real child.   Her name is Sonya and my wish is that she can have a Christmas with her God given family that is normal without a media story coming out on Christmas eve or Christmas Day.   I wish that maybe she can live a normal life without media interference.

Don’t say she’s brainwashed.  Please try to see her perspective.

JM & The Coalition for the Protection of Indian Children & Families

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Johnston “John” Moore has been making the rounds on some adoptee / pro-ethical adoption blogs to try and clear up his name and image, which were likely heavily tarnished after his appearance on Dr. Phil’s Oct 18, 2012 episode about the “Baby Veronica” case.

In case anyone missed it, here is the episode. John first appears at around the 18:30 mark and it snowballs from there.

On October 13th he made these comments on Ethical Christian Adoption’s blog post An Open Letter to Focus On the Family and iCareAboutOrphans Regarding Orphan Care here

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His second post is particularly disingenuous.

Really one need only watch his Dr Phil appearance to see what a raging bigot he is. At one point he holds up a picture of one of his adopted sons and angrily exclaims over how inappropriate it is that a child like that is being protected by the…

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